3. The marriage project
1. The common project
It is necessary that spouses have a marriage project whose engagement is forever. It is a project of committed and enthusiastic love of shared life.
They will have a series of values that they accept and are going to live together, such as: the permanent union with fidelity. How should the usual coexistence be? They should treat as friends with understanding and sincerity; the acceptance and education of children must be made with generosity and sacrifice; they must work with responsibility and flexibility; they help each other with acts of service and solidarity. How should the relationship with the friends and family be? How prioritize the expenditure of the family? And so on.
Spouses must have clear these objectives and talk very much to have concrete agreements. When differences between the spouses arise in the future, rather than argue and fight, they can remember and apply the common project objectives.
(Painting: Tommaso y su esposa. MEMLING, Hans. Museo Metropolitano de Arte. Nueva York)